woensdag 30 september 2015

God, make me a wife day 10: Family

Hey all,

How are you doing? Still standing strong?
I have to admit that I feel a bit demotivated... I can feel/see/experience that God is coming closer but still... I am really tired, I feel like giving up this blog and a whole lot more (all negative of course). Luckily for me (and all of you going through though times right now) God is bigger than all of it! He is working very hard right now to bless all of us. We need to hang in there girlies!

Family, it is either your safe haven or your worse nightmare - there might be a grey area in between - but one thing is for sure, you were not able to choose them the moment you were born. I know that some of you may have had a very bad childhood with a father of mother that had problems with expressing their love or maybe even abusive situations. I am so sorry if that is you! Maybe you never got an apology from the family member that hurt you, on their behalf I want to say: Sorry! You deserved so much more than what happened to you, you deserved to be safe and to be loved and I am sorry you did not had the chance to fully experience that when you were younger.

A big step moving forward from family problems is to forgive, we spoke about that on day 8.    
We need to cover situations with love and have to understand that some situations are transitioning from one generation to the next. Some people just don't know any better and the cycle of abuse (all sorts!) is never broken. So we need to stand up against everything that is going from generation to generation, whether it is poverty, abuse, negative thoughts, bullying, addictions, divorces etc. We need to break this cycle - sorry devil, I will not let you stop  me! - and make sure that we are passing the right things on to our next generations, like loving marriages, healthy relationships, good educations, being free of debt, communication skills etc. I think you can name a few things that you would like to pass on to the next generation! Pray and say them out loud, tell the devil that you are not going to accept all the bad things from previous generations and that you are breaking the cycle.

Honor your parents

  • Ooh let me go straight to the how-to's ;-) read Exodus 20:12! It is in the 10 commandments, so it must be a major thing for a Godly women (and men)!
  • Honor them with your time - it might not be convenient for you but make a effort to let it be on their agenda. Visit them, call them, stay in contact with them. Yes that might be very difficult if they are living in a different country, if you are having kids, you or your spouse are having medical issues and not to mention financial situations! But you can try to contact them at least once a week! 
  • Say ' I love you'  on a regular base. My parents are not very generous when it comes to saying I  love you. I still find it hard to hear from friends that they love me because sometimes it feels like I am missing a solid foundation. But hey - let's break that negative cycle! Even when your parents don't say it very often, you can say it! So let us spread the love, especially if you do not feel like it. 
  • Show your appreciation, send/give them a small gift, write a handwritten letter, make a photo album etc. Be creative and show your appreciation, include something that really has value - nope not diamonds or a car (you can send these to me) - but a photo with on the back side a small note on how you felt on that occasion for example.
  • Don't expect ANYTHING in return from them! Expect God's promise for your land - Exodus 20 - but don't be discouraged if they don't return the love or favor. 
 Spend time with those who matter
Your kids matter, your husband matter, your friends matter, your parents matter, all your relatives matter. The guidelines above a example on how to treat your kids and family. If you have grown kids, give them a call to let them know that you are thinking about them, that they are important. Tell your loved ones that you love them. Have dinner together, enjoy life together.

Let us say I love you to those who really matter to us. Send them a hand-written card,  a small gift or make a phone call to see how they are doing. Honoring our parents (and loving our family) is a major thing for us women who want to be like Christ.

With love,

ps. Don't forget to pray that is the biggest gift that you can give to people!

dinsdag 29 september 2015

God, make me a wife day 9: people in need

Hey lovelies,

How are you doing today?!
I love the stories throughout the bible were Jesus was helping people or the story of the good Samaritan. It is absolutely great to know that there are people out there who are willing to help.

When you think about people in need and helping them what are the first thoughts that come up to you? Is it about giving money or material things? Maybe giving them a helping hand when they are moving to a different house?

People in need is such a broad and wide subject. It can mean so many things, so I just want to share some of my thoughts with you. At first I think that there are people in need everywhere! Whether they are Christians or not, living in the poorest country of the world, using drugs or whatever. People need help!

I love to help, I might need not be the most generous person in the world, but when it comes to helping others I am totally in my zone. I love helping a pregnant friend with some things she is not able to do anymore, because of her belly. The woman on the street with the little girl that really needs to go to the toilet but she is standing in the line with her groceries. Going to a different country to help a primary school with fun activities. Helping out a friend who is in financial need.

Praying and asking God to open up your eyes to see the needs of others is absolutely the first step in the process. You might also want to pray for your heart because it isn't always that great ;-) sometimes it takes a lot of time, effort and energy to help someone. Ooh and you might get nothing in return! You can find people in need everywhere, sprinkle Gods kindness everywhere you go!

This is all for today! Yest shortest blogpost EVER! Go out and help others, don't wait for them to come to you. Send some of your friends a message and see how they are doing. Even when you are doing your grocery shopping you can find people that need help, it might be reaching for a product on the top shelf because an elderly woman can't reach that high anymore.

Open up your eyes, reach out to other and sprinkle the kindness!

I know you can do this!

With love,

maandag 28 september 2015

God, make me a wife day 8: Inner peace

Hey all,

It is already a week that we are busy now with this marathon and how are you holding up? Do you like it so far? Today's subject is probably the hardest one of all because it is about what is inside us. Time to remove the clutter from our heart and revealing who we really are in Christ.


When it comes to peace I always think about multiple things like: having everything in order, not being worried, being calm, being happy, being in love (with myself and God). It most definitely helps when my house is clean, when I have a day off, when work runs smoothly, when my fridge is full and my friends are happy. I have to admit that doesn't happen to me on a daily basis ;-) so I have a few other things that really help me. 

zondag 27 september 2015

God, Make me a wife day 7: Cooking

Hey Ladies,

Sorry for the delay! I have been blessed so much today that I was almost running out of time to complete this blog post before midnight ;)
My sweet friend Iraida and I had an appointment to style a photo shoot (Iraida the make up artist - moi doing jewelry) we had a lot of fun and after that Iraida helped me cleaning my house. She is absolutely blessed with the gift of housewife/cleaning, my place is now sparkling clean!
Yeah, Thank you Iraida (and God to let me have a friend like her!)

But back to our marathon, I am already feeling such a huge shift in my thinking pattern. How are you doing ladies? Today we are handling the subject Cooking. Which makes me think of a different friend, who told me about her lasagna this morning haha no names, no details! There are so many differences between cultures and countries when it comes to cooking. But I absolutely believe that we can change the whole meaning of it when we seek God in the midst of it.

What...? Yeah! Finding God in the midst of cooking.
He is in everything we do, but He also asks us to do everything the very best we can. So let's see what that means when we are talking about cooking.

  • We can decide what we are going to have for breakfast, lunch etc. there is no one who will bring junk food to our lives unless we are going to get it. Making the choice to always have the best and do the best for your body, will give a complete new view on this matter. Do you drink a lot of soda, eat a lot of sugar or what about skipping meals? Don't you know that this body that you have belongs to God, He only gave it to us for us to use it for his glorious work here in earth. Have a piece of chocolate so now and then, feel free to have a pepsi so now and then, feel free to go to the 'big yellow M' so now and then. There is absolutely nothing wrong with now and then, as long you are trying to have a healthy lifestyle with regular meals, enough veggies and fruit.  
  • When you are having a husband and/or kids and you are the main meal provider, what do you give to them? Do you treat them as God wants you to do? Are you serving them healthy meals which will provide to them all the energy they need for all their activities? Will you make God proud with the food you are serving them or are you lacking on this matter? Serve them like you would serve Jesus... every single day! 
I know that life can be busy, but your family needs you and if you are single, you need yourself! If it is only the Mister and you in a household and if you are doing all the cooking, let your meals revolve around your husband, it will please the Lord. -Thank you Holy Spirit, I didn't know this either! - If he is really anti - tomatoes, then leave the red thingies of his plate, you are not his mother to make him eat certain things! If he is a picky eater, find some ingredients that he likes and be creative with them. Make sure that what goes into your Mister Hubby is healthy, nutritious and pure.
And Miss if you are single guess what. don't think that you can skip meals just because no one is watching ;-) God wants to see that you can take care of yourself, because if you can not take of yourself how do you ever want to take care of a husband? Eat your veggies and make time to eat breakfast, lunch and dinner.

I absolutely love cooking, but I know that there are a lot of women who don't like to cook. So I would like to share some very easy but healthy recipes. 

Dessert Best of both worlds
Chocolate 150 gr. - chopped
How to:
Melt the chocolate in the microwave or with the au-bain-marie method, give it a good stir so now and then. When it is completely melted, dip the strawberries in the chocolate (2/3 of the strawberry - holding on to the green leaves) place them on a roster, let cool in the refrigerator) 

Wedges Potato variants
Potatoes (2/3 medium size - per person)
Olive oil
1 clove Garlic 
How to:
Pre heat the oven (200 degrees) Wash the potatoes and cut them in equal pieces (wedges, cubes etc), wash them again and dry them with some paper towels. Place them in a baking dish, pour some olive oil on the potatoes (a tablespoon per person). Cut the garlic in 2 or 3 slices and mix them with the potatoes. Now the fun part can begin, time for seasoning! You can use a mixture of salt/paprika powder/ chili powder and pepper (add the paprika powder after 20 minutes of baking) or try salt/pepper/parsley (add the parsley after 30 minutes of baking). The potatoes need 45 minutes in the oven (when you have really larges chunks that might be longer!) some herbs and spices will burn in the oven. You can add them later in the baking proces as you need to mix the potatoes every 15 minutes or so.
Great with a salad! 

Not gonna post a lot of recipes :-p because we have Google!
Start small and enjoy it.

With love,

zaterdag 26 september 2015

God, make me a wife day 6: Spa moment

Hey ladies!

How are you holding up? I hope you are enjoying the marathon and that you can feel that God is changing your world around.

Spa moment! Yes, time for you! You can make today's task extremely easy by going to a Spa, but I understand if you are not able to plan trip like this anytime soon. Maybe you are busy with school, work, kids, the Mister, church or all of them. So I would like to encourage you!

Do you know these rare moments were you have all the time to take a hot bath/shower? Well to succeed in today's task you do need to find a bit of time somewhere. If you have a bath; lid some candles, make yourself a nice cup/glass of something, prepare your bath (a nice bath gel etc.) and play your favorite music. Wash your face and apply a mask, step into your bath and enjoy your Spa moment!
For all the ladies who only have a shower; Wash your face and apply a mask (first thing you do as it needs time to its work), find all your favorite shower attributes (like shower gel, scrub gloves, scrub - or make one yourself, Google it! - maybe even a shower mud etc) decide on forehand if you are going to wash your hair (if yes apply a mask to your hair). Take time to scrub your whole body, enjoy your Spa moment!
Use a nice soft towel (may a warm one for the Dutchies - place it over the heater or put it in the dryer) to dry yourself and apply a nice bodylotion - with care all over your body.

This is an instant-Spa moment and you will feel super relaxed after ;-)

You can also create a spa moment for specific body areas:

  • Feet: fill a small basin with lukewarm water and add some foot bath gel (or a nice smelling shower gel). Let your feet soak for 10 minutes, now scrub your feet very thorough - using specific products that are made for it are very effective - soak them for another 5 minutes, dry them completely and apply a foot cream.
  • Hands: Wash your hands and apply a bit of scrub - once again using specific products is highly recommended - wash it off, dry your hands and apply a hand cream. You can combine this with painting your nails. 
  • Face: Wash your face - or use your favorite product to remove all the make up from your face - fill a bowl with boiling water, drape a towel over your head and steam your face for 5 - 10 minutes, scrub your face or use a peeling, wash it off and dry, apply a mask (follow the instructions on the package) rinse/tissue it off and apply a day/night cream.

If you don't have all the specific products, use Google for creating your beauty products. You can use honey, yogurt and so many other food products as beauty products! There is no excuses lady! 

Tomorrow we are cooking! Feel free to send me your favorite recipe. 

With love,

vrijdag 25 september 2015

God, make me a wife day 5: Clothing and Beauty

Ola chicas!

I am so looking forward to 'preaching' this message, I feel excitement running through my veins now I start writing this message. This is will be amazing!

How do you like this marathon so far? Are you able to find more time to spend with God?
Today's task will take time but it will be so worth it.

Clothing and beauty, our 'proverbs 31 woman' seems to know what she was doing and dressed herself with fine linen. It may sound a bit superficial but what if... yes what if God is finding pleasure in you dressing yourself nicely?

Doesn't the bible say:
And whatever you do or say, do it a a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father. Collosians 3:17 (NLT)
So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. 1 Corinthians 10:31 (NLT)

If we are getting dressed in the morning let it be for the glory of God, oh yeah! Does it really takes that more effort to put on a dress instead of jeans? Wearing a dress or skirt doesn't have to be uncomfortable. Not saying that we have to wear skirts and dresses all the time. Wearing a pair jeans that fit nicely, together with a chique top and high heels or cute flats are making a great combo as well.

Also great with short ankle booties

You can exchange the trousers for a pair of jeans

Here are some basic tips and tricks: 
  • Find colours that work for you, there is plenty of information available online. For instance this site where you can download a tip sheet! 
  • Do not dress yourself like a rainbow (unless you are going to a rainbow party) 3 colours is the absolute maximum and one of them need to be white or black. If you look at the Casual Chique photo you find three colours. The trousers and shoes are beige, the top and hair accessory are light pink while the bag and the print of the shirt are a brighter pink. 
  • There are many different body types and one girl will look fabulous in a certain dress but if her best friends tries it on she might look like a cute little fluffy muffin. Once again if you are not going to a costume party this is not the look you want to portray. You can always go to a store and ask for advice and have a read online about body types.
  • Balance is feminine! If you are showing (ahum I hope you know what I mean) your legs, make sure you cover up the girls. When there is emphasis on the girls make sure that the legs are fully covered. Unless you are married and you are planning a little party for your husband, feel free and confident to show everything you have all at the same time. ;-) 
  • Invest in some good basics like a black dress, black trousers, white blouse, jeans and shoes. These items are musthaves for every woman, if you invest in these basics you can combine them with items that are seasonal. The basics are items that will stay in your closet while the seasonal items are just temporary. 
  • Ever thought about asking God what He wants you to wear? I did that and it gave me a complete new inside on what I have in my wardrobe
Now the fun part will come! What about going through your wardrobe and sort it allll out. Have a good look at all the clothes you have, how are they making you feel? Like a confident, successful, beautiful follower of Christ or do they make you feel like it is Pyjama day, sloppy and baggy? Take every piece and ask yourself is this what God wants me to wear, do I wear it, does it even fit? If the answer is yes, place it in your wardrobe, if the answer is no, decide if it is ready for the garbageman  or that you want to give it away (or sell it!). On day 13 we are going to have a little clothing trade party so you might want to take your left overs to this party! PS. if you are not able to do this today give it a priority on your next week planner - just sayin.

Oh and why not doing exactly the same with your beauty products. I bet you have some products that you have used for a week of 2 and they disappeared somehow. They now live somewhere in the back of a cabinet. If it is still usable set it aside to give it away (or sell it). All the products that are to old, to stinky, moldy etc trow them away. They are not coming back to life! I have learned myself to first finishing a product before I can purchase a new one. 

I would love to share some basics about beauty with you!
  • Find products that will suit your skin type. I encourage you to go to a beautician and ask her everything what you want to know about your skin type. Stick to a routine that will work for you. Cleaning your face twice a day and apply a moisturizer is the absolute bottom line - the Holy Spirit is trying to tell me something haha! 
  • Did you know that you can achieve amazing results by steaming your face a few times a week? How it works, boil water and put in a large bowl. Place a towel over your head and make sure you capture the steam. Add a few drops of tea tree oil or a sachet of chamomile tea if you want to. 
  • Using a perfume is a simple trick to help you boost your mood. Especially when I use one that is a bit more expensive, makes me feel like having it all together.
  • Give your hair a good proper blow dry! If you are blow drying your hair just to get it dry, why not give your hair that little bit of extra? If you want more volume just lift your hear at the roots while you are blow drying it. Don't blow the air from the front (your forehead) but use your flexibility to blow the air from the back of your hair to the front. If you have wavy hair, blow dry your hair with your head upside down, while "scrunching"it. Always use a product that will protect your hair from heat. You can use a heat protection spray, serum, gel etc. whatever you prefer! 
  • Make up: my job requires me to wear make up. I have found a routine that works for me, working in an aircraft does something with the skin. So my work make up is different than my 'free time make up'. Lately I have this thought coming into my mind every time I am leaving my house, especially when I am going to church. Show that you can take care of yourself! Show that you care enough about yourself that you make some time free to apply a bit of make up and doing your hair. If you not quite sure on how to apply make up or what will fit you, just leave a comment on Facebook  or below, if needed I will make a new blog post with the help of my beautician friend. 
Hope you enjoyed this blog post as it is a bit different than the previous. I pray that you will be able to clean out your wardrobe, that you will care enough about yourself to spend time on yourself, that you are able to find the woman in yourself! A small change in your routine can have a big impact. 

You are an amazing woman and let the people show, you are here with a reason and there is no reason for you to hide. Clean out your wardrobe and do not hold on to stuff from the past, that cute little dress is now 2 sizes to small? Bless someone with it! That sweater that will make you like a homeless person, you might want to make the commitment to never ever wear it in public again. We are woman of God, the highest King, He was pretty demanding when it came to making an altar (for instance exodus 38) so why not having the same standards for our life?

Oh and remember your potential husband is out there, he might be looking at you ;-) 

With love! 

ps. I was writing this while wearing PJ's and not having done my cleaning ritual! We can not be perfect all the time, but at least we can try to commit ourselves to take it to the next level. 

donderdag 24 september 2015

God, make me a wife day 4: House decoration


Do you like the marathon so far? Today we have a fun topic - well everyday we have a fun topic - but this is a bit different than the others. We are going to talk about house decoration.

I am not the best when it comes to making your house a cozy place but over the years I have tried some things and now I am getting the hang of it. Using internet was very helpful and as long you don't make permanent changes (like taking down a wall) you can always go back to how it was before.

Some pictures to inspire you!

1. Bedroom

2. Living room

3. Beach house

4. Living room

5. Living room

Turn your house into a home
Imagine you had a long day at work and you would walk into a room like one of the above. They all that 'home' feeling to it. Turning your house into a home by making it you. Your favorite colors, pictures, a blanket on the sofa, a fresh bouquet of flowers etc. Sometimes I say to myself: make it a place where your husband wants to come home to - yup saying that as well when it comes to household chores. Changing the way we think about certain things will help us to feel different about it as well. Lid some candles, buy that bouquet of flowers, having some cookies baking in the oven. I can almost smell and feel it, that smell of being home! A place where you are safe, where you can be you! Wouldn't it be great, your husband walks into the house after having a rough day at work, you just finished dinner and you walk towards the front door to give him a kiss and a hug, he looks into your eyes and says: I just wanted to go home, to be with you because here I can relax - or something else nice - might sound a bit like a hollywood movie but there is nothing God can not do! He can give you this husband (or change your husband ;)), he can give you the ability to turn your house into a home! I am well aware that most days things are hectic and that we are consumed by work and obligations. But we need to keep in mind that we need to create this safe haven for our (future) husband and kids! 

How to decorate your house
  • Budget: there are possibilities for every budget. Decide how much you can spend on decorations. Candles and pillows aren't that expensive and make a lot of difference. Have a look on Pinterest and create your own board full with decorations ideas! Secondhand shops and thrift shops have great stuff for small prices. 
  • Time: how much time do you have to spend? If you only have one Saterday afternoon you won't be able to paint all the walls in your house, when you are having a week off you can achieve more than only buying pillows. 
  • Plan: know what you want and how you are going to achieve this. Make a mood board, collect samples, choose your colors etc.
  • Have a look at photo 5, you can see a lot of accessories but there is also a balance. Personally I think they hid the focal point of the room - the fire place - what do you think? Focus on the focal point and find a balance. Do you notice that everything has the same color (bright green, white, beige or brown). If you stick to a few colors, you will bring balance and peace to your home. 
  • Have a look at photo 2, there seems to be a theme for the room. The chair on the left looks a bit retro, while the coffee tables look like they are straight out a beach house. Still it seems to match! The pillows on the couch are from the same fabric, the mirror on the wall and the furniture have the same 'feel' to it. Do you agree with me that there was a plan for this room when they decorated it? 
  • Now photo 3, your house might be a mix and match of furniture, mine was for a very long time. Nothing wrong with that, it is the feel that you get when you walk into a room. The side table was painted pink to match the opposite wall, the main colors are very soft and although it is a mix and match of furniture it all fits together. Maybe you can achieve the same feeling by giving your furniture a fresh coat of paint or placing them somewhere else in the room. 
  • Photo 4... Photo's! Give your precious moments a place to shine. Be creative and make a nice collection of picture frames, on photo 4 you can see that the furniture and the frames have the same color, the wall is painted in a different color. Follow this example or do it the other way around! You can also find some inspiration on photo 1.
  • Photo 1, please do not forget your bedroom, the place where the magic and/or sleeping happens. Make your bed every morning, the bed is mostly the eye catcher so have some nice bed linen and clean the clutter from your side table. Hang a painting, have some candles and maybe even some new curtains and it will give your room a new feel. 
I don't suggest that you have to redecorate your house but if you want to give your house a new feel, this might be the sign you where waiting for. Share your thoughts and ideas on this, oh and if you know me in person and if you want some help. Just let me know I love decorating! 
What do you in your house to make it a home?

A big hug for all of you ladies. 


woensdag 23 september 2015

God, make me a wife day 3: quiet time

Lovely ladies!

How are you today? I pray you are doing awesome. I am so thrilled to see the participants number rise, we are in this together ladies ;) no matter if you are single or married (or something in between). God is working amongst us and He is so in this marathon, to bless all of us. Please keep on praying for one another and invite your friends to join you in this marathon.

Day 3 already and we are going to talk about quiet time.

Your friendship/quality time with Jesus and God
Jesus called us 'friends' and I would like to make the statement that we have a friend in Christ. If you are spending time with a friend on the phone you will strengthen your friendship. You can go to the movies together, you can do a lot of things together! But what really sets the tone for your friendship is the fact wether you can be still together. What if both of you aren't speaking to one another but you are together in the same room? Will it feel awkward or will you feel so comfortable that it brings you relaxation? It is the same when you are spending quality time with God. The moment you set everything aside and you commit yourself to Him. When we are doing this He will also be able to speak to you and He will be able to reveal more of Him inside of you.

*Sidenote quiet time is more than prayer, you can pray everywhere ;) I learned myself to pray while I cook, drive or do the laundry. We as women can do multiple things at one so why not asking God to join you while you cook?

Make it a priority
Show God that He is your priority! All the single ladies, now is the time to spend as much time as you can in his presence. There will be a time that you will be consumed by diapers, a demanding husband, crying babies etc. Make the most of it now that you have the possibility. Also when we show God that we are (at least trying) to be faithful by giving Him a portion of our day, He will be faithful and give us all the guidance that we need. God needs to be the priority in our life, because your life started with Him and it will end with Him. There is nothing in between, it wasn't your husband, Facebook or chocolate who started your life. It was God, because He so loved you. By His grace we are now able to spend time together with Him.

How to?
  1. Place it is very important that you have a special place where you can meet Him. It might be the bedroom or maybe you have a spare room which you can turn into your 'quiet time room'. It doesn't matter where it is as long as it is peaceful and guess what quiet (or almost quiet). If you are travelling a lot, find something that works for you, maybe on the floor next to the bed or so.
  2. Have a plan/time spending time with Him is absolutely amazing. But before your dive into it, it might be helpful to have a plan. What do you want to achieve? Do you want to know more about the bible? Do you want to pray and train yourself to hear his voice? So many possibilities. You can start with 10 minutes a day for example in the morning. 2 minutes devoted to prayer, 3 minutes of being quiet, 2 minutes to praise Him and 3 minutes with journal. There is so much you can do! Reading the bible, memorizing a bible verse, praying, a journal, a bible study, singing, meditating on His promises.
  3. Pray open your quiet time with prayer. Ask Him to enter in and to clear your mind, that your heart may be still so you can hear Him speak. Tell the Lord that He is welcome and that you are willing to listen.
  4. Just shut up seriously! Just shut up! Just be quiet my precious lady friend. It is really hard to listen to someone if you are the one who is talking. If you want to hear from God it is important that you just calm all of your thoughts and that you keep your mouth shut. Let God do the talking.
  5. Journal You might want to keep a journal or a notebook next to you when you are having your quiet time. You can write down all that God said to you, all the revelations. So much easier to write everything down instead of remembering everything.
Helps you to grow discipline
Discipline allthough it looks like the word disciple, sometimes I feel like that the word discipline is a curse word. Gosh it can be so hard to be disciplined! But if you are fully committed to implement quiet time into your routine. It will get easier day by day, at first it may feel like a sacrifice but the longer you are doing this, it will eventually become a habit. Soon it will be something you can not live without anymore.

Make this promise to spend silent time with God everyday!

Tomorrow we are going to talk about house decorations!


dinsdag 22 september 2015

God, make me a wife day 2: Work/job/business


Do you still want to continue this challenge after I talked about household chores? That you are reading this makes me think the answer is yes. Yaay!
Today I wanted to talk about you 'the business woman'.

That doesn't mean that you need to have your own business or a job, but it is about what are you doing to build up your life? What is the plan for your life, what is your life goal?
A couple of weeks ago I was reading a blog about the difference about the rich and the poor. It was extremely superficial as it was about money and not about being rich because you have Jesus in your life. But I have to admit that it touched me, I find it a bit disturbing that there are so many differences, while it is so easy to implement at least a few of their habits in our lives.

The 'Proverbs 31 woman' was always very busy and she clearly had a plan for her life. The fact that she went out to buy and sell items, that she was busy sewing, cooking and taking care of her family shows that she was having a focus on things that really matter. So here is my question for you: where is your focus on? Facebook? Friends? Your family?

What do you really want to achieve in life and what do you need to do in order to achieve that? Do you need to do an extra study, taking on an extra job, starting your own business, finding a different job? God has a plan for your life! There is chance that you already know this verse from Jeremiah 29, but I would like to remind you of this:

11 For I know the plans I have for you,” says the lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. 

How awesome! God has something for you, you are here with a reason! Oh and you are not only here to live, no God has something good for you.
What can you do today to give yourself a better tomorrow? I know for myself that I can be a bit lazy, my current job as a flight attendant consumes a lot of time, while I actually want to spend my time on my writings and my own business (jewelry making). But I am having this job with a reason, not only does it pays the bills it also a great feature on my CV so I just stick with for now. Now that I am hanging there I want my colleagues to be happy if they need to fly with me. So I encourage them, give them motivational feedback and help them grow. When the opportunity is there I tell my colleagues about church and God. As a flight attendant you are not allowed to express your faith to passengers as you are a representative for the airline but hey co-workers are fine ;-)

What attitude do you have towards your job or business (stay at home moms you included, you are the manager of your life and household). Are you working while keeping your eye on the price, the attitude of a follower of Christ?

What attitude do you have towards your co-workers? A lot of questions right? I want to share my opinions about this subject with you. First of all I pray a lot for my job, otherwise I go crazy! My job is very demanding and as I am a teamleader I need to make sure that I communicate a lot and also that everyone is motivated. When I am very tired I pray a bit harder, to make sure that I show the loving attitude of a follower of Christ. He was always loving and blessing others. So I always try to make sure that all the praise is going to my colleagues, if a passenger gives a compliment I tell the cabin crew that, telling them that it was because of their effort. Jesus his life wasn't about him, it revolved about the people who needed him the most.

Keeping your eye on the price
Sometimes you have to be at a certain place for a certain reason and although it may be easier to just leave and move on, there might be a reason why God placed you there. Make sure that you have a plan for your life (yes of course include God his guidance in this!) it is okay to dream of having your own business, know what you have to do to achieve this. Go to a workshop, find information online and make a planning etc. What are you aiming at and how is your progress going? Is there something that you can do differently or maybe you have to push a little harder. Or maybe you are a bit like me and you can be a bit lazy at times (Pyjama day, all day, every day!) or you are spending your time on Facebook while you can also spend it on making a phone call - Yes moi is quilty! Focus on your goal and make a planning on how to get there! God will show you which steps to take, but you have to take them, He is not going to do it for you.

The importance of having a plan for your life
In the beginning of this article I wrote about the difference about the rich and the poor. Did you know that 67% of the wealthy write down their goals vs. 17% of the poor? I find that very interesting! The idea behind writing down your goals is to help you focus on what you want to achieve. It is easier to stay on track if you know where you are going to. The chance that you will get lost on a side track is decreased as you can make decisions based on your 'life plan'. Once again this has nothing to do with the riches of having Christ but seeing so many Christians struggle... let us think like the rich and behave like them as well. Have a plan, know how to spend your time, have the right attitude and work hard!

Spend some time on Google and search on "poor and rich habits" or something similar and read some outcome of researches. Invite God in your life goal/plan and ask Him how to make your life richer, not only by money but by having Jesus inside of you and showing you exactly where to go.

Let us pray for one another! Feel free to post your prayer request or your thoughts on this.

Tomorrow we are going to talk about quiet time.


maandag 21 september 2015

God, make me a wife day 1: Household chores

Hi ladies,

I am so thrilled that you are willing to take on this dare! If you haven't read the intro please have a quick look! This is a complete new adventure for me as well so I am absolutely excited for what God is going to do in this coming 14 days.

First of all I would love for you to read about the 'Proverbs 31 woman'. She is so active, skilled and organized, that must have to do with the time she sets aside to praise God. Because otherwise you go completely insane ;-) I know I would!

Today I want to focus on her being organized and busy in the house. She makes a great example, let's see what we can implement in our daily life.

10Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. 11Her husband can trust her,and she will greatly enrich his life. 12She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
13She finds wool and flax and busily spins it. 14She is like a merchant’s ship, bringing her food from afar.
15She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.
16She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard. 17She is energetic and strong, a hard worker. 18She makes sure her dealings are profitable;  her lamp burns late into the night.

 19Her hands are busy spinning thread, her fingers twisting fiber. 20She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy. 21She has no fear of winter for her household, for everyone has warm clothes. 22She makes her own bedspreads. She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns. 23Her husband is well known at the city gates, where he sits with the other civic leaders. 24She makes belted linen garments and sashes to sell to the merchants. 25She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. 26When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. 

27She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. 28Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: 29“There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!” 30Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the lord will be greatly praised. 31Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.

Planning is the key
If you want to have your life organized then you need to have a planning. Especially when it comes to household chores, when you do not like to clean or tidy up etc. it can be so easy to 'forget' that you have to clean. Making a planning will give you a better overview of everything that needs to be done. It will help you to distribute the chores evenly so you can save yourself from cleaning marathons and you can always open up your house to (unexpected) guests.

How to make a household cleaning schedule?
I like to write things down so I can see them, it also helps me to see what needs to be done tomorrow, the day after etc. having a good overview makes me feel like I can handle this!
I use a weekly white board (bought it at MediaMarkt, but you can find them at Hema, Action and online stores, sorry readers outside Holland I bet someone knows where to purchase them from - feel free to leave a comment!) But you can use your phone calendar or some paper and a pen as well. Find something that works for you.

Step 1: make a list of everything that needs to be done, especially when your house is a mess it might be helpful to make this list so you can spread the tasks out through the coming weeks. Oh and make yourself a cup of tea/coffee, who said you shouldn't enjoy planning?! It is also important that you know what your priorities are, when you have small kids you probably want the floor to be mopped more often than when you are single and working 5 days a week. But if you are single it might be harder for you to keep the kitchen clean because it is so easy to leave your plate on the counter as it will only disturb you. Know what you want to achieve in your household.
Step 2: decide if you want to make a week planner or a day planner. If you make a day planner be careful for the pitfall of wanting to much done in 1 day. You are a superb woman but you are not superwoman!
Step 3: why not taking a cookie with your hot drink? Just made myself a caramel latte, because who said that I can not enjoy writing, right?! Okay, focus, step 3 is writing down your activities like work, babysitting, getting the kids from school, church meetings etc. All the activities that are already planned for the week.
Step 4: Now that you have an overview of your week you will see that some days are completely filled with activities. Don't give yourself a hard time by planning even more cleaning tasks on this day. Maybe only doing the dishes and a ten minute tidy up after dinner. Now write down the tasks that you want to do everyday like: make your bed, do the dishes, 10 minute tidy up.
Stap 5: Spread the bigger tasks like vacuuming, mopping etc. evenly throughout the week. Once again do not overdo it you are not superwoman! The reason of having a schedule is not make you fail but to make you a winner, so make sure that your planning is doable. You really don't have to wash the windows every Wednesday, but you might want to mop the floor every week. That mirror in the hallway is less important than your kitchen.
Do you have kids? Make this planning together with them, sit around the table with a drink and a snack and ask them how they think about household chores and ways of keeping the house clean. Let them find chores that they can do their self like cleaning their bedroom and make it a group activity. 

Neat house is a neat mind
Don't you just love that feeling when you house is cleaned from top to bottom. It smells so fresh and clean, what if you have this feeling everyday? When you are used of having a planning it is so much easier to keep your house clean and clutter free. Having a clean and neat house will help you to get a neat mind. You will find more peace and the atmosphere in your house will definitely change, which will give you the ability to relax. Having everything in order, will make a difference in your mind.

Make your house your (future) husband wants to come home to.

So ladies good luck with your schedule! Feel free to share tips and tricks.

Tomorrow we are going to speak business!


zondag 20 september 2015

God, make me a wife 14 day marathon intro

My precious lady friend,

I am absolutely honored and touched by the fact that you are reading this. My prayers go out to you my friend, I hope that this marathon will change your life, heart and relationship with God. Just a quick introduction, my name is Mieke and now 29 years of age. I have always had a big heart to help women all around the world through writing. I just love writing! My friend Julee will also covering some of the subjects!

We have started an event on Facebook feel free to join us. Or organize your own by inviting your friends and creating an event on FB, spread the word!

Let me start with a short explanation why I wanted to do this. As a single woman I am constantly praying for a husband, asking God to make me a wife etc. I think that all the single ladies can relate to those kind of prayers and maybe the married ones as well ;) But just a couple of weeks ago I was reading this blog post were the writer asked: what are you doing to make yourself a wife.
I have to say that is a very good question!
Sometimes we are still dating guys who don't have husband potential, spending more time on things that don't matter instead of spending time with God or we act out of hurt. That's why I want to dare you to spend the coming 14 days in God his presence, as I believe He is in this challenge!

Although the title may suggest that this marathon is for single ladies I want this to be for women in all kind of different situations. No matter if you are married, single, dating or engaged I truly believe that God has something for you! We cover all kind of subjects from cooking to clothing and from church to family. So just put on your spiritual dancing shoes and join!

Here is our schedule:
Day 1: Household chores
Day 2: Work/Job/Business
Day 3: Quiet time
Day 4: House decorations
Day 5: Clothing and Beauty
Day 6: Spa moment
Day 7: Cooking
Day 8: Inner peace
Day 9: People in need
Day 10: Family
Day 11: Husband
Day 12: Church
Day 13: Taking care of yourself
Day 14: Hospitality (including Lunch and Clothing + Beauty products trade party)

In 14 days we cover multiple subjects and some of them are very practical while others are more about inner maintenance. Looking forward to hear your stories about how God has touched you.

Day 13 will be amazing as we are going to have lunch together! Will tell you more about this the coming days.

Big hugs and kisses for all of you!

Xoxo Julee & Mieke